About Carolyn

Carolyn Eagle is a Certified Sex Educator, speaker, menopause advocate, and the Founder and CEO of Viola Media Inc., the parent company behind Betty’s Toy Box and Naughty North online pleasure product boutiques. With more than 12 years in the sexual wellness industry, Carolyn has become a leading voice in the conversation around menopause, midlife sexuality, accessibility, and pleasure-positive education.

Known online as “The Pleasure Librarian,” Carolyn has built her career around one core belief: pleasure is not frivolous, shameful, or reserved for the young. It is an essential part of overall wellness, body literacy, and quality of life. Through her businesses, speaking engagements, educational writing, and social media platforms, she has helped thousands of people navigate sexuality with more confidence, knowledge, and self-compassion.

Carolyn’s path into sexual wellness began with a background in women’s history, gender politics, and communications. A graduate of the University of Toronto with a focus on Women’s History and the Politics of Gender and Sexuality, she spent years working in publishing and communications before launching Betty’s Toy Box in 2014. What began as an online boutique quickly evolved into something much larger: a trusted educational platform where women, couples, seniors, and people with changing bodies could ask honest questions without fear of judgment.

As her brands grew, Carolyn recognized a major gap in sexual health education, particularly for women in perimenopause and menopause. Doctors and therapists were beginning to acknowledge issues like painful sex, loss of libido, vaginal dryness, and changes in orgasm, but few people were explaining the practical side of what actually helps. Carolyn stepped into that space, bridging the gap between clinical conversations and real-world solutions.

Today, she is widely recognized for translating complex sexual health topics into approachable, stigma-free education. She specializes in menopause and perimenopause, sexuality and aging, accessibility in pleasure products, erectile dysfunction support, and intimacy for mobility-challenged individuals and diverse bodies. Her work focuses heavily on empowering women to better understand their bodies and advocate for themselves within healthcare systems that have historically overlooked female sexual wellness.

Carolyn’s speaking style has earned her a growing reputation as one of the most relatable voices in sexual wellness. Intelligent, humorous, candid, and deeply compassionate, she combines evidence-informed education with the warmth of a trusted friend. Whether she is discussing orgasms, hormone shifts, pelvic floor therapy, lubricants, or vibrators, she removes shame from the conversation while making audiences feel seen, informed, and empowered.

A frequent speaker at wellness events and conferences, Carolyn gained significant attention for her appearance at the National Menopause Show, where she presented “Vibrators 101” and introduced pleasure products into a space traditionally dominated by supplements and hormone discussions. Her booth became one of the busiest attractions at the event as women lined up to ask questions about libido, painful sex, orgasm changes, and intimacy after menopause. Carolyn’s approachable demonstrations and practical guidance resonated deeply with attendees, many of whom said it was the first time anyone had openly discussed pleasure as part of healthy aging.

In addition to speaking engagements, Carolyn is the writer behind The Pleasure Librarian, a rapidly growing Substack community focused on menopause, sexuality, aging, feminism, accessibility, and body literacy. Her essays combine personal experience, cultural commentary, education, and humour in a way that has attracted readers looking for honest conversations about topics often ignored or sanitized elsewhere. Her writing is known for being intelligent yet accessible, direct yet empathetic; the voice of someone who tells it like it is, while backing it up with expertise and lived experience.

As an educator and retailer, Carolyn has also become a strong advocate for accessibility and inclusivity within the sexual wellness industry. She regularly highlights the lack of products and resources designed for older adults, disabled individuals, and people dealing with chronic pain or mobility challenges. Her work consistently challenges the outdated idea that sexuality has an expiration date.

Carolyn’s expertise has led to media appearances, industry recognition, and speaking invitations across both the wellness and sexual health sectors. Betty’s Toy Box was awarded the 2026 XBIZ Honors Award for Best Online Adult Boutique, further solidifying her reputation as an innovator and advocate in the field. She has also been recognized as a Trailblazing Female Founder by the Stimulate Sexual Wellness Conference.

At the center of all of Carolyn’s work is a simple but powerful mission: to normalize conversations about pleasure, menopause, and sexual wellness so that nobody feels ashamed, broken, or invisible as they age. Whether speaking on stage, writing online, educating healthcare professionals, or helping someone choose their very first vibrator, Carolyn Eagle continues to reshape the conversation around sexuality with honesty, expertise, and humanity.